Emotional Debt: Red in the Ledger of Your Heart
Throughout our lives, we walk in and out of many relationships. Some relationships only last for a season. Others last a lifetime. With all of these relationships, we are capable of hurting the people that we care about. If left unresolved, the pain that we cause can create an emotional debt in our lives. Anyone that has worked through any type of addiction program knows that one of the most important steps of these programs is making amends to people you have hurt. I believe this is something that we all need to do in our lives to eliminate the emotional debt.
Accumulating Emotional Debt
We accumulate emotional debt when our actions or inaction causes emotional pain to someone else. This could be to a parent, a child, a spouse, a friend, a co-worker, or basically anyone else that comes into our lives. The pain can be purely emotional, but it can also be physical, mental, or financial. The first step for wiping out that debt is the hardest, and that is asking for forgiveness.
Emotional Debt Forgiveness
It may feel like it is impossible to ask forgiveness from someone that we owe an emotional debt. The most important thing to remember is to be sincere. As long as an apology comes from your heart, it will help you to heal. Even if the apology is rejected, at least you have tried to heal the wounds. Often, taking the first step to right your wrongs can do more to make you whole than forgiveness will.
Tearing Down The Mountain
Over time, emotional debt can become a mountain to overcome. That mountain only gets higher if the pain is inflicted upon family members and others that we have lifetime relationships with. Repentance can start to move the mountain, but we still need to do everything possible to make up for the mistakes of the past. Sometimes, an apology is the only thing that we can give. Sometimes, it takes a greater restitution to resolve relationship issues. It can be anything from giving time to someone you have hurt to monetary restitution if there was a financial impact. The only way to wipe the debt clean is to do everything you can to make up for hurting someone.
As difficult as it seems at times, we should always try to correct the wrongs we have committed in our lives. By taking care of our emotional debt, we not only can help to heal someone else’s wounds, but our own wounds as well.